Games, games and more games: the eternal dance of dating.

So I find the double standards that guys have to be very interesting. I'm not talking about the typical stuff, like when parents say boys can hang out late but girls can't, etc. I'm speaking of those standards which guys seem to use as an excuse to play games. A guy i know is completely ok with speaking to a girl he's dating while his friend is in the car with him, but is hesitant to call the girl when she is in the car with another friend, be it male or female. Is that really one of those situations that "when it happens to me, it's ok, but i find it rude when i do it to others" or is it "I want to see if you'll call me when you are with your friend"? Either way, it's such a turn-off.

Whatever happened to saying what you mean and meaning what you say??? Do 30-somethings really believe that they can continue to play those oh-so-popular games that they played when they were in high school and the early years of college? I mean, seriously, what are guys thinking. At this point I guess I should include the fact that girls also play the same games, so henceforth, the rest of my blogg is for both sexes, no discrimation here...

How does one really have the mental energy to engage in such games, whatever happened to simplicity? I like you and if I want to speak to you, I'll call you -- without those stupid 3-day rules. I'm wondering if dating has really come to this, do I even want to continue?

Guys today say they want an independent girl, one who can stand on her two feet and not be clingy or needy. Yet, when they meet said girl, they get intimidated and need to bail out quick. However, if I play the "damsel in distress" I find that I have a massive migraine and can't keep up the sharade. What is an independent girl to do? I'm confident in who I am and thankful for all that I have acheived, not ashamed of being successful, but meeting such men, and there are sooooo many of them, makes me think maybe i need to hone my acting skills some more.

The girls that play these sharades and games, tend to keep the men around more, so is that what it means for girls like me, who like to "keep it real?" In order for me to keep someone interested in me, should I play the soft, weak, damsel in distress who needs a big strong guy to save her and explain to her the difference between a V4 and a V6 (and I'm not talking about the drink).

More to come...